The curious case of Social Media Remorse !

Have you in the recent past noticed a change in your demeanor? Sweaty hands, a strange pit in the stomach, unable to concentrate on anything and a need to REFRESH and hit DELETE ?

The above symptoms are best described as a classic case of "Social Media Remorse". Welcome to the world of  New age Social Networking.

Social networking sites sure made our lives a lot easier, opened new channels for us, both personally and professionally. We get to reach out to old friends and make new ones too. Everything is great until you mess up with a single post,video or 'tag' that kills the vibes between you and someone else. That is when all these symptoms comes into play. Because friends you make with just one 'click' are usually the first to go anyways.

What got me prompted to write this was when I was caught up with the remorse of posting something (which was not exactly what I meant) and had sweaty hands with diarrhea almost, and wishing real hard I could press delete before the damage was done. But, I guess in my case it was already done. I just had to live with it, another bleeding ulcer!

So, I now am very careful of what I post, I think through it, 'would this offend someone?' 'would it imply something I don't mean' etc, and unfortunately I sometimes take it to the next level and check if it makes me look good. Because after all the number of likes and comments on your post and photos is important in the world of networking :)

So this begs the question, are we really who we show we are, or are we showing someone we wish to be? 

I surely am not against networking of any sorts, in fact I swear by Facebook, but after many instances where a post looked incredibly funny at the time and incredibly stupid in retrospect. I think a little bit of self imposed abstinence is a good thing. 

Ever regretted Posting something about yourself?

Source : http://www.appscout.com/2010/05/regrets_only_study_charts_soci.php

I have dug my own grave in more than one instance,and statistics show that I am not alone ! don't fall prey to it. Its best to keep it simple and not use it to for (WWF )Wage wars, Whine or Flaunt.

1. Wage War : It is was never wise to wash dirty linen in public, so dont use your facebook to clear the air with a friend or colleague. It is bound to get dirty. A smarter thing would be to go offline and sort it out.

2. Whine : Have a problem with work, or your sorry love story ! try not making negativity your brand . People will begin to see you that way while you wonder why ! 


3. Flaunt:  When you are flaunting something, "a little goes a long way".Read Do not over do it. It is not cool!

Online networking is still in its adolescence and all of us will have to go through (my favorite word) growing pains with it. But, the good news is that there are no rules ! So while being as creative as we want try not letting remorse creep in by being aware of who you are in the social sense of networking !

Middle of somewhere !

When you wake up one morning and find that you are not sure where exactly you are can be quite an experience but what could be more daunting is when you realize that you are middle of somewhere and not sure where you are heading !

At this stage that is how I often feel, a need to carve out my own niche but with the trouble of not belonging anywhere (that is available to me). Finding the perfect fit has always been difficult be it a shoe,a dress or stage in your life. 

At 25 and married, I have achieved one great milestone in life, which would be finding the one person to go home to. Believe it or not, not having one can make your entire life meaningless. Now that I have found the person to go home to, I find it difficult to understand where to go from here.

Why do I say that I am in the middle of nowhere, let see ..

1. Am I size M, L Or should I find other store ? 

I don't have a size I belong to, every piece of clothing needs to be tried and tested. My wardrobe is filled with clothes ranging from 8 to 14. Where do I belong ? Okay, jokes apart let me really think....

2. Conversations with Friends:

Why does previously hilariously and flirtatious tales seem so non interesting ! Talks about boys,sex and flirting does not excite me as it used to. And lets face it whats more important to a single girl than the cute boy next door. But, when the conversations revolve so much around this and mainly this, the selfish person in me feels the need to stop and talk about something well more important to me! Hours of telephonic conversations are replaced with awkward pauses and lame 'so what else'. I often feel the need to shake some of them and say, come on grow up! Girl friends are a vital part of my life, people who I used to laugh and play with seem suddenly immature,mean,insincere. 

3."The other married people"

Then I go ahead and socialize with a few married couples I know, the talk is always surrounding good housekeeping, juggling jobs with home and inadvertently children.I listen on feeling like I came from another planet.Most often have nothing to contribute and drift of to my own reverie until some one ask me question( the answer to which I would have no way of knowing ).  Having to go to a kids fourth birthday party makes me cringe and feel stupid. I don't belong here, or maybe I don't want to, as I cling on to all the things that make a little girl.

4. When I becomes a WE

Its not always about what you want, you seem to have to think about the we aspect of your life for sometimes mundane things too. Do I feel like going out today ? No, and then you automatically think but maybe he would want to. So you go, feeling I should be home tucked in my bed, and if you don't go, you sit in your bed thinking I should have gone and feeling guilty as hell. What happened to the time when 'sorry mate I cant make it', ends there.

 I look around and see that it is not only my job that I would have to start from the bottom but also many other nuances in my life.  I feel like I am constantly judged by all, that boundaries are being drawn by others or me and I feel the need to portray a predetermined image. I swing between immense sense of security and insecurity. I laugh and cry with the greatest force in my life. I experience joys like never before mingled with doubts that I have never had to face before.All this often leaves me confused and lonely.It scares you and wish like hell that familiar things are restored with only the welcome addition of your loved better half.

 Suddenly, change is the enemy and you try and cling on to the past with dear life, but soon realize that the past is drifting further and further away, and there is nothing to do but stay where you are or move forward. 

Growing up is not just crossing over from the teens to twenties, what I fail to realize that it is a never ending process, a constant phase of life. Call it the "growing pains" or the "quarter life crisis" know that you are not alone, everyone goes through it in their own unique way. 

To my Love ...How Do I Love Thee

To my dear love ... How Do I Love Thee?

 How do I love thee? Let me count the ways. 

I love thee to the depth and breadth and height 

My soul can reach, when feeling out of sight 

For the ends of Being and ideal Grace. 

I love thee to the level of every day's 

Most quiet need, by sun and candlelight. 

I love thee freely, as men strive for Right; 

I love thee purely, as they turn from Praise. 

I love with a passion put to use 

In my old griefs, and with my childhood's faith. 

I love thee with a love I seemed to lose 

With my lost saints, -- I love thee with the breath, 

Smiles, tears, of all my life! -- and, if God choose, 

I shall but love thee better after death. 

By, Elizabeth Barrow

Sally Knows Nails

Who among us does not love a manicure! But time and money can keep us away from the nail spa.Being away from the spa need not mean not having awesome nails. Thank god someone out there knows that nails can be our best accessory. Sally Hansen has now a complete home mani kit with minx and salon effects! With this you could have a new nail style everyday ! 

I am obsessed with their Salon Effects nail kit, it is easy and gorgeous and last almost forever ! At 10 dollars for two applications it is worth every penny ! They only take about 10 minutes to apply, and is really easy. The kit comes with every thing you need to apply the strips.

All you need to do, is clean your nails and buff them, then peel of these stripes and stick them on to your nails, you could snap of the rest with a scissor and then buff your nails to the shape you like. 

I tried the golden shimmer one and it lasted 10 days and I loved my nails !

Ready for fashion forward nails in minutes. Try it out !

A picture is worth a thousand words !

So, I have been busy with many things ! But, without fail my mornings start with fishing through groupon for the next best deal in town. And that is how I came across my latest project, which kept me busy for weeks.It was meant to be a surprise for my husband, but sheer happening at the outcome made me share it before I could possibly cross the end line.

I came across a deal for a photo book website called blurp.com. Being interested photgraphy I decided to check the site out. And thank god I did. I simply could not pass the idea of creating a book, with my own designs.colors and story ! A new thing for me to try out, and the more I checked the website the more I wanted to get started. Now that I am finished with my project using as much as creativity I could muster here it is ( am quite proud to show it off).

Before I share it with you all, let me tell you a bit about what it is.

A photo book is the next evolution of the photo album genre, using our digital photos. With a software, you can immortalize the moments behind every favorite photo to make your own story. It can be used to celebrate a wedding, a baby, a vacation or simply any personal memory that you would want to preserve.All of this can be done to suit your ideals and would be completely your brainchild. There are many options out there to make your own photo book, the best being mypublisher.com, shutterfly.com and blurp.com

I used blurp.com and thanks to my groupon I got to order a beautiful book made out for less !

"If a picture can speak a thousand words, then a photo book is pretty much a poem or a story"

Ten Reasons Why I Love You | Make Your Own Book

Chck it out and let me know what you think !

It is really simple, beautiful and inexpensive, cant wait to create more stories !